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Rizina's avatar

Rachel, this was a great read, thank you. I particularly admire the pointed self awareness.

I did undergrad at Stanford and saw many friends take the McKinsey/Bain/BCG in SF route, often with the caveat of building skills, now and using them to create impact, later. Somewhat predictably, ‘later’ hasn’t quite come to fruition and has been replaced by the need/desire to ascend in those firms.

However, what I think is fascinating is that no matter what we pursue, there seems to be self-delusion and self-aggrandisement sprinkled throughout. Those who work in impact think they are bettering the world and that gives them moral superiority; those who work at name-brand companies think they are excellent and that gives them prestige; those who go to top-ranked grad schools think they are wonderfully intelligent and that gives them intellectual superiority. Those who aren’t quite doing any of these, find intellectual justifications to reject these hierarchies and models of life and work (sometimes probably rightly so, other times not so much).

Perhaps a leap, but is the problem more so that of human fragility and our need for self-importance. We play all sorts of psychological mind games to feel we are special, justified through the work we do, the friends we keep, and the ideas we espouse. Is humility, genuine humility (not the faux language of progressivism) the answer?

The other thought I have is how do we create a structure where the majority of prestige and reward comes from doing good — defined, for example, by which elements of the Universal Declaration of Human Rights our careers contribute to? How do we assemble a social system that rewards morality and virtue rather than profit maximisation? So even if people do it for self-interested reasons, at least the outcome is a better world!

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Eric John Walsh's avatar

This hooked me right away. I recall those days, so very similar. Took a heart attack to break the vicious cycle. The shame lingers though. The regrets over the time lost, the friends lost, love lost. I paid a huge price for something that only temporary. Sadness...

I was recently asked what my four pillars of life were. I explained that I had only three pillars at this point - faith, hope, and love. My questioner, young and ambitious, wrapped up in the world (as I was), seemed disappointed in my response. "Why are those your pillars?", she asked. My answer - "because those are the only things that truly last."

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