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Mar 7, 2023Liked by Rachel Katz

I know this is an older one but I have to say it had me big, ugly tears. Thank you.

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Ah I'm just seeing this...sending you tons of love, I know this one is heavy!

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Such an incredible piece, Rae. I remember scoffing at the idea of an ultimatum in SF in my mid-20s. Now that I'm older, I have so much admiration for young women who know what they want and make those desires clear. Don't we admire men for those same traits?

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Very interesting parallel, Alicia, I hand't thought about it that way. Yes, when the desire is "babies," somehow knowing what you want and saying it clearly is not exactly admired...

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Whenever I wonder how I’ll possibly explain what it feels like to have a hard fertility journey to someone who hasn’t experienced it but genuinely wants to understand, I am grateful I can send them this. I am also grateful to be able to come back to this and remind myself, I am angry, I am not crazy, I am strong and wise, and I am not alone. Thank you.

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I feel seen. This post is my life for the last three years. Unfortunately I’m one of those who didn’t have much money and ran out fast. My odds of conceiving a child are so low that I’m just trying to learn how to live with the sadness that I know will stay with me the rest of my life. I’m happy for you that it finally worked. Love your little one for all of us who won’t get a chance to love our own little one.

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