Such an incredible piece, Rae. I remember scoffing at the idea of an ultimatum in SF in my mid-20s. Now that I'm older, I have so much admiration for young women who know what they want and make those desires clear. Don't we admire men for those same traits?
Very interesting parallel, Alicia, I hand't thought about it that way. Yes, when the desire is "babies," somehow knowing what you want and saying it clearly is not exactly admired...
Whenever I wonder how I’ll possibly explain what it feels like to have a hard fertility journey to someone who hasn’t experienced it but genuinely wants to understand, I am grateful I can send them this. I am also grateful to be able to come back to this and remind myself, I am angry, I am not crazy, I am strong and wise, and I am not alone. Thank you.
I feel seen. This post is my life for the last three years. Unfortunately I’m one of those who didn’t have much money and ran out fast. My odds of conceiving a child are so low that I’m just trying to learn how to live with the sadness that I know will stay with me the rest of my life. I’m happy for you that it finally worked. Love your little one for all of us who won’t get a chance to love our own little one.
I know this is an older one but I have to say it had me big, ugly tears. Thank you.
Ah I'm just seeing this...sending you tons of love, I know this one is heavy!
Such an incredible piece, Rae. I remember scoffing at the idea of an ultimatum in SF in my mid-20s. Now that I'm older, I have so much admiration for young women who know what they want and make those desires clear. Don't we admire men for those same traits?
Very interesting parallel, Alicia, I hand't thought about it that way. Yes, when the desire is "babies," somehow knowing what you want and saying it clearly is not exactly admired...
Whenever I wonder how I’ll possibly explain what it feels like to have a hard fertility journey to someone who hasn’t experienced it but genuinely wants to understand, I am grateful I can send them this. I am also grateful to be able to come back to this and remind myself, I am angry, I am not crazy, I am strong and wise, and I am not alone. Thank you.
I feel seen. This post is my life for the last three years. Unfortunately I’m one of those who didn’t have much money and ran out fast. My odds of conceiving a child are so low that I’m just trying to learn how to live with the sadness that I know will stay with me the rest of my life. I’m happy for you that it finally worked. Love your little one for all of us who won’t get a chance to love our own little one.