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Erika Zeitz's avatar

Sometimes I can take a nap with my husband. But mostly, I nap by myself or lie down and close my eyes. I fall asleep often in a big armchair, but resist it because a nap in it for longer than 10 minutes is disaster for my back.

I believe in naps. Naps and a cat saved my life.

When we moved to the house we live in now, I was seriously depressed. Tired all the time although only working part-time. I had also sprained my ankle, badly and had to shlep my son to school every day. It was the equivalent of 3 blocks from my house, but limping with my son next to me, and chatting with a neighbor and her kids were all I seemed able to do.

I would get home, get back into bed and my cat would come and purr on my chest. That was how I spent the the first couple of months living in our "new" house.

If it hadn't been for my cat and child, I might have died, I think. I finally got to the doctor. She prescribed an anti depressant and gave me the name of a therapist, and I gradually got better.

So when I get tired and confused and my brain won't take another step, that's what I do now. I go lie down. Sometimes a cat will will lie down next to me or at my feet -- these cats are not like my old, cuddling cat (he passed in 2016). But I just lie down and remind myself of the healing that sleep and rest can do. Who am I hurting if I don't rest? Myself and by extension, those with whom I have a relationship that involves caring. Who am I hurting if I do rest? No one. It's a quiet win.

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Anne Kadet's avatar

For me what works is having a very regular resting schedule. I try to get a good nights sleep and at least an hour of rest every weekday. I don’t any work chores or errands on Saturdays. And I take a week off of everything every three months.

Because I get so much regular rest I never crash and burn out.

For me resting = walking, reading on the couch, day dreaming and hanging out with fun people I really love.

It’s a very nice way to live!

It took me a few years of trial and error to figure out what works for me. And I imagine I’ll need to keep tweaking as my life changes.

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